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15Feb/101

Guest Blogger: Wedding Planning Notes from the Groom’s Journal

I hope you all had a fabulous Valentine’s Day!  This weekend, I had the pleasure of being the wedding planner for an amazing couple, Kristen and Sean.  (Details to come in a future post.)  While I was hard at work, my baby brother (who is engaged!) was sweet enough to be my guest blogger.  I admit, he’s a little bit biased, but so am I – he’s pretty awesome too.  Without further ado, allow me to introduce you to Jonathan…

Many weddings have the benefit of a professional wedding planner, and many do not. I am lucky enough to have one for a sister. Elisheva is literally a bride's best friend.

To put it simply, I don't know if I would be having a wedding this June if not for my sister. Having a professional planner means having someone who knows what goes into a wedding, how to choose vendors and locations, and has a network of professionals who love working together.

What goes into a wedding?

A wedding is much more than the sum of it's parts, and Elisheva taught us that. The very first questions she asked us about our wedding were "How do you want to feel on your wedding day?  How do you want your guests to feel?" We didn't even realize that we should be considering such intangible things, but Elisheva knows how to define them and use them as a focal point for all the tangibles in order to create that feeling.

How do I choose a location?

Dione and I didn't know what we were doing before our first meeting with Elisheva. We found ourselves wandering around downtown San Jose looking at a handful of hotels that didn't suit us at all. After Elisheva asked what was important to us and our budget, she set up meetings at three venues we had never heard of and took us to all of them on our day off. They were in the much nicer areas, closer to where we live and that day we found the perfect spot to get married and have our reception.

How do I choose other wedding professionals?

Yet another perk of being closely related to a wedding planner is that Elisheva got Dione and I tickets to Wedding University where I met a dozen or so top industry professionals from lighting to dance instructors to florists. During the classes, I picked up on one common element when talking to a vendor you are considering: be honest about your budget. Tell your prospective vendors exactly how much you have to spend on them and they will tell you if they can make it happen. Bonus tip: a vendor is more likely to "make it happen" if they like you. So be friendly and open (and when the big day comes, pamper your vendors and they’ll go above and beyond for you).

What good is a network of vendors to me?

Elisheva already has relationships with all sorts of vendors, and she knows what it is like to work with them and what their work is like.  It isn’t necessary that all your professionals have worked together before, but one of the benefits of having a team that knows each other is that they’ll go out of their way to help each other too.  There’s no “that’s not my job”.  Everyone goes out of their way to serve each other and the bride and groom.

Before Dione and I could blink, Elisheva had arranged for another top notch day-of coordinator for us (Elisheva will be busy being a sister) and an excellent DJ, Ron Grandia to be a part of our celebration. I am super excited to meet more of her colleagues as we finish planning our wedding.

It's only a few months to the wedding day, and Elisheva is keeping the planning process on track. I know most of you don't have a big sister with the professional background Elisheva has, but it's okay. You can borrow mine.  Happy Wedding Planning!

Sincerely,

Jonathan,
A Bride's Best Friend's Brother

P.S  You can see a slide show of The Wedding University via Janae Shields and a video of the day courtesy of Studio MSV

Comments (1)
  1. It’s very interesting, in my opinion the hardest choice to do is to find a good Place

    cheers

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